Managing your stress depends in part on what you do with your proverbial aardvark. You can ignore it, dance with it, change your perspective, or get a new aardvark. You cannot change an aardvark that doesn't want to change. You can only change the one sitting in your chair. You must look at what part of each situation brings you stress. Change what you can and leave the rest alone the rest is not yours to change. Kathryn Seifert, Ph.D. is a psychotherapist, author, speaker, and researcher who specializes in family violence and trauma. She is Founder and CEO of Eastern Shore Psychological Services (www.ESPSMD.com), a private practice that focuses on serving children, adolescents, and at-risk youth and their families.